How does falling in love feel?

To be the most important person in someone's life is a precondition for a passionate love. We want to be the most important person for our partner and we long for our partners nearness. To fall in love leads often to physical reactions, like appetite loss, sleeping problems, and respiration difficulties. Lovers feel the love grows strong in the heart and sometimes in the stomach, in the arms or in the legs (or some other less poetic place). Love becomes like a delirium.

To be in love is a mixture of feelings - hope, fear, anxiety and excitement. The most strong and self-confident man can turn into a shy and timid boy near his love.

We are also afraid to open up ourselves and expose our true us - because we don't want to be rejected. But to open up ourselves is important in order to achieve mutual love. We are vulnerable when we open ourselves; therefore, love requires an ability to trust ourselves and our love one. The cautious lover tries to persuade the other person to open up first, before he does, which is not that successful.

Lovers often think deeply and obsessively of each other - as an ownership. They try to make love bounds - as a guarantee for safety. Gifts are exchanged as a promise that they belong to each other.
Lovers have deep feelings of solidarity. To be together and feel as one is to experience perfect harmony. Me becomes a new being - we, which other consider as a pair. The pair has its own language - that other might consider idiotic - nicknames, made up words, and childish talk. A language no one else understands which symbolizes their unique love. They share secrets and confidentialities. To reveal a secret is an incredible way to be reached.

Lovers feel they have a common identity - they have melted together. Every step towards nearness leads to the next, to speak with each other becomes like touching, to touch each other becomes like making love, to make love to each other becomes like melting together the souls.